A discussion with your children.

Okay, the topic I’m writing about is going to make ALOT of people cringe and uncomfortable and that is just sad  but I’m still going to talk about it. And the topic I had in mind is none other than SEX. OOh, I said the big “S” word and I can hear many of them screaming like a wild banshee. If anybody is uncomfortable you can stop reading now. or maybe read? You might just find it funny.

I was given the Indian version of sex-education on the night before my wedding day. I was sitting in my room which was by now filled with relatives and friends and whenever I tried to walk past the room, all those gleaming eyes would follow me around as if I’m a fragile piece of art about to be dropped from the eleventh floor of a building. While everyone was gushing over the fact that I am getting married and the 26 years of my life seems like it just happened yesterday, one of my aunt suddenly decided to blush and pursed her lips to give me some first hand tips for the night after wedding. She was indirectly trying to teach me about sex without having to talk about it, which completely threw me off because I thought she was talking about a very well-planned murder she had in mind for that night. Then slowly everyone who actually had an experience with this secret code language of sex-education became super uncomfortable and started walking out of the room pretending to answer those invisible people in the kitchen and the living room. The topic is a taboo even to be talked to a girl who is about to be married, It got me thinking about those millions of others who just gets married without any knowledge or even having a very courageous mallu aunt by their side. Apparently in India, how parents talk to their children about sex is like that of a person being forced to take a crap in front of an audience. It is something they dread almost everyday of their life and most of the time when they do feel the need to talk about it, the conversation goes to this extend:

Father: “Son, did you think about the future, I know you know everything well, but as a father it’s my responsibility to ask.”
Son: *Awkward* Yes, dad. *awkward*

Mother: “Daughter, I hope you know what is about to happen in your life and I need you to be ready. Don’t get tensed and it is a normal process in every girl’s life. And as your mother, it’s my responsibility to tell you this”
Daughter: *Shyness* Okay, mom *Awkward shyness*

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It is important that parents share pertinent knowledge regarding sex and everything related to it to their kids, because in all educational institutes in India, this is what happens,

And then they go on to believe the lies their parents told them including a very famous one that goes like this,
“When a husband and wife who loves each other so much and sleeps together will be BLESSED with a baby.”

This onset of a chain reaction can only be stopped if parents and children formed a graceful and amicable relationship. Now I am not even talking about sex, it can be about a father and daughter talking about her period, a son talking about a girl he likes at school to his mother, a father talking to his son about liquor or smoking, a mother talking to her daughter about female hygiene. I mean, there are endless topics as Indians we are uncomfortable and stubborn not to talk about with our children but these neglects and escapism can affect our society as a whole. And with that I will end my rant and IF I have made anybody uncomfortable, please, kindly get over it. 🙂 Thank you.